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29 August 2010

Tea, Control and a TARDIS

This week has been pretty damn awesome. 

This is the last weekend before things get really, really hectic, so we're trying to enjoy it. September is going to be crazy busy - BitchBuzz's birthday party, London Fashion Week, Oh My Blog's 1st workshop, preparing to go to Greece - but I'm really looking forward to it. 

The best thing this week, aside from selling 19/25 tickets for Oh My Blog's 1st workshop in four days, was, well this:

Oh yeaaaah. That's a TARDIS. I visited the BBC Television centre to chat to the fantastic Jamillah Knowles from BBC Outriders, and she showed me this, and a Dalek. YES A DALEK, TOO. 

But, aside from flipping out of the TARDIS and drinking myself into a tea coma, I'm been thinking a lot about control. Control is something that I fancy the pants off of, which is both a good and bad thing. When you're running your own business, control and caring about the details, the fine print, and the direction that your brand is heading in is important. 

Relinquishing control of these things is quite scary. However, even more scary than giving up controlling things you once had control over is giving up trying to control the things you can't. The concept of stopping the insane attempt to control the uncontrollable might sound absurd, but I've personally come to realize that a lot of the Energy Sucks in my life exist because I simply cannot wrap my mind around the concept that there is nothing I can do to change it. 

You cannot control the irrational. You cannot control the illogical. 

Accepting that as much as you'd like to think you can change people's minds by just being better or by doing good, it is impossible. No one likes giving up on things or people, but there comes a time when you really have to accept that you're not giving up or giving in - you're accepting and embracing the situation for what it is: uncontrollable. 

Sure, we try our best to control things. We go through motions that make us feel like we somehow can influence the outcome. Learning to trust the concept of "no matter what I do, ____ will still be this way," is hard. Particularly if you're believe the old saying "if there's a will, there's a way". But, for those uncontrollable situations and those uncontrollable people, any attempts you forgo are simply out of vanity. Never mind being a waste of breath/time/energy/brain cells. 

It can be really disappointing to accept that some things just are, and will remain shitty, awkward, and frustrating. It can be heartbreaking to discover that some people just weren't as "on it" as you thought they were. It can be sickening when you have to accept that even those you love so fiercely are so stuck in their own psychological mud, that there is no amount of tears that you can shed, or words that you can muster that will bring them out from under.

I'm not a religious person (which is why I had to do a little backspace action over the word "god") but this prayer/quote has been in my mind a lot lately:

"Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference."

Personally, I am a little slow when it comes to having the "wisdom" to "know the difference" between the things I can control and the things, people and situations that I cannot, but I endeavour to have as much serenity as I can during the process I am currently undergoing, which is accepting what I cannot change, and what I cannot control. 


...And during that process, I will be doing drinking a lot of tea, and eating a lot of baked goods, as I did this week:


"Fighting the Spanish Armada" teapot at Sacred



Moleskine and tea at Nordic Bakery after some filming with the WYGU team. 



Tweeting from my local Starbucks with my favorite pink Tumblr I bought before embarking on my first trip to London.



Cake, tea and champagne at the Flemings Hotel with Vikki


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I recognize that pink tumbler anywhere :) have my own from my time at Starbucks!

I too have difficulty accepting the things I can't control but I think it's one of those life-long learning exercises that irritates you along the way. If you stumble across the magic strategy for accepting that which you can't control yet are DYING to, let me know!

*"Adventure is not any flow to the Department, " indulgence in physical beauty, as long as the water the fish were the two I forget, the Liberal serene.

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